Wednesday, January 12, 2011

30 Days Of Truth, Day 4: Something You Have To Forgive Someone Else For

     Boy, and I thought Day 3 was difficult! This one is worse. In part because it is really hard for me to admit how I feel when someone mistreats me. It is also difficult because I do forgive people and move on. Also, the part of me that hands everything over to humor when I get uncomfortable wants to take over right now. I'm fighting it, I promise.

     There was a friend who turned on me in a really aggressive way. I still do not understand what happened, and she is out of my life. I forgave her a long time ago, though.

     My father is, shall we say, not a nice guy. Do I still need to forgive him, or have I already? I think I have. I would never sit down to Thanksgiving dinner with the guy? Not a chance. Because it wouldn't be good for me, and also because I would not subject my loved ones to him. But do I forgive him for who he was in my life and the way it shaped me? I think I do. I do not wish him any harm. I will feel safer in general when he no longer lives, but I swear this isn't the same as me wishing him ill will. It's just a matter of fact. And does it mean I haven't forgiven him? Does forgiveness mean we deny our fears? I don't think so.

     I think the more I live the easier it becomes to forgive. I might express my upset over something, but I don't cling to it. I release it. It makes life so much simpler. And frankly, people do not do much wrong by me. I don't have to forgive much, just because there is not much to forgive.

     There is Dino from Time Warner Cable, but I think he's beyond redemption. (just kidding - sort of)

     What about you? Do you have some forgiving to do? What stops you?


  1. Really interesting blog! Im glad I found you. This was a thought provoking post. I know we are more powerful if we can forgive, but it;s a big leap, isn't?! I'll have to go away and think about it now.

    Im a follower now, looking forward to coming back to see what else you've got!

  2. I do have one person I need to forgive, but I am not ready to do that yet. Hopefully in time I will be able too. Great post!